2019 and 2020 was eye opening and brutal to me.

My life was turned upside down. They say everything happens for a reason. I believe that. I also believe that it’s okay to not be okay all the time and to let others know that you need help.

Companies – especially law firms – need to be more understanding of the fact that their employees sometimes just need some help and support.

So much of what people post on social media are just the happy moments and their successes, giving others the idea that their lives are perfect. News flash – no one’s life is perfect.

I’ve been very honest this year about my life not always being perfect in order to help others and to show that no one has it all together all the time.

But this year wasn’t all bad for me. It forced me to slow down and really look at my life and relationships. It allowed me to heal from the trauma of being suddenly discarded by my significant other and replaced with one of our mutual friends. It allowed me to get help to deal with depression. It allowed me to break unhealthy patterns that I had been repeating for years. It allowed me to process with loss and to really heal from two years of being gaslit, controlled and emotionally abused by a narcissist.

I also dealt with the loss of my beloved dog Charlie who had battled medical issues his whole life, and welcomed two puppies into my life to start a new chapter.

I built a business from scratch, and it’s (knock on wood) doing well. (I am so grateful to my clients and everyone who has passed along my name to others!)

I moved into my dream home and out of the temporary apartment I was in after my ex suddenly made me move out of our home.

I got back in touch with the side of me who loves to write. This blog became my creative outlet and my connection to the outside world. When I hear from you about how a post resonates with you or has helped you, it makes it all worthwhile. I am so proud and humbled that this blog took off.

Here’s the thing, when the clock strikes on midnight and it’s suddenly 2021, nothing in your life will be different unless YOU make it different.

So start making goals (not resolutions – because resolutions have a negative connotation and goals are forward thinking).

  • Start replacing old habits with new ones.
  • Start prioritizing yourself and people who bring you joy. Distance yourself from those who don’t.
  • Start surrounding yourself with people who motivate you and have your back and cut out mean girls and negative people.
  • Start being more selective with where and how you delegate your energy.
  • Start setting boundaries.
  • Start being kinder and showing more gratitude.
  • Start lending a helping hand more often.
  • Start mentoring someone and giving back to the community.
  • Start doing the things you don’t want to do.
  • Start forgiving more.
  • Start saying yes to the things that scare you and push you.
  • Start to believe in the goodness of humanity more and welcome love with open arms if you have been closed off to it.

Every good and beautiful thing in my life has always come on the other side of something painful and hard. Thank you for reading this blog and standing by me. Thank you for all of your emails and notes to me.

To good things ahead. Happy New Year all.