As someone who has been to hell and back over the past few years, my advice is to just keep moving ahead even if you don’t know what will happen next. Even if you’re scared.
Forge ahead no matter what it takes, no matter how hard it is and especially when you feel numb.
You and I are more resilient than we think. I promise.
I was petrified to rebuild my life after everything suddenly changed a year and a half ago. I didn’t know how. I didn’t want to. I hate change. But I did. I had no other choice.
I look so happy in this photo – which was taken a month before my life as I knew it was pulled right from under me – but on the other side of me was my ex, and I was anything but happy.
I was stuck in a relationship where I couldn’t be myself and where I was afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing at all times. I walked on eggshells every day. No one should have to live like that. Whether it’s in your professional or personal life.
I was in Mexico in this photo and I had begun to have serious doubts about my relationship a few weeks prior and especially on this trip. All of the red flags I had ignored early on were coming to a head. I was pretending we were a perfect couple – especially on social media.
I’ve found that the best way to do rebuild is to just put on foot in front of the other, take it day by day and just take action. Believe in yourself. Lean on others.
Embrace imperfection. Failing is better than not making progress.
Confidence is not something you need to get started. Especially if yours has been shattered. It will come little by little as you rebuild your life.
So many of us don’t realize how strong we really are until we go through hard times.
I certainly didn’t realize how strong I would be when I had to rebuild my life.
Reinventing yourself at any age is a choice. You’re not too old and it’s never too late.
There will always be a voice in your head doubting your abilities. Fight it. Starting late doesn’t matter. Just show up every day and do your best. Even when you don’t want to and even when you feel like you can’t.
Work harder than others around you. Push yourself to do things you aren’t quite sure you can do. Say yes to opportunities that push you out of your comfort zone.
Just take action. Take a chance on yourself. The confidence will come. Embrace imperfection. Failing is better than not making progress.
Find your voice. Find your tribe. Find your calling. For me it is very much to help others through writing and the blog.
Everything will make sense someday. So, for now, laugh at your mistakes. Keep going. And keep reminding yourself everything really does happen for a reason.
And just keep going. ❤️
(PS – don’t delete those photos of you with your ex that you like – simply just cut him/her out! I have all sorts of apps and tools that make this easy to do!)