On International Women’s Day, I want to highlight Vice President Kamala Harris who is a pioneer and leader in every way professionally and breaking down gender barriers.
But did you know that she met the love of her life at 49? She married him at 50.
I’m sure people in her life wondered why she was single for so long. But she gives many people hope that even if you have never gotten it right when it comes to your personal relationships, and you seem to have it all together when it comes to your career, it is never too late to find your happily ever after.
(Oh and of course she also shattered every glass ceiling by becoming the first female and diverse vice president of the United States.)
Don’t ever settle for something because you think you need to be married by a certain age or have a family before your fertility declines.
Today anything is possible with reproductive technology. Don’t ever think what you want is unachievable. Two of my close friends just had babies at age 47. It wasn’t easy but it can be done.
And don’t ever feel like you can’t ask for what you really need from someone. If they don’t want the same things as you, it’s better to find out very early on so you don’t waste each other’s time.
I dated someone for several years who was misaligned with me from day one and things never really progressed although we did all of the things you’re supposed to do such as moving in together, taking vacations and celebrating holidays together. But the real commitment wasn’t there.
Kamala and her husband didn’t know each other very long and were married within a year. You hear those stories all the time of people who get married within months. My own parents got engaged within six months of meeting each other. They say when you know you know, and I think that can be true, but I also think that when it’s not right you also know, and in my case I knew but I chose to ignore it because of my age.
Do you know how Kamala shattered that glass ceiling? Sometimes I wish I could shatter that biological clock.
Getting divorced is okay. Focusing on your career is okay. Taking time off to focus on your kids is okay. Making mistakes is okay. It’s all okay. It’s your unique path.
Things may not come or happen to you at the age you want them to and they may not look exactly as you thought they would, but they will come.
Maybe one day you’ll shatter the glass ceiling just as hard as Kamala did or achieve something in your personal life that you’ve always wanted – just never give up on it. I’m not.