It’s that time of year, when there’s a litany of commercials, greeting cards and social media posts all serving as constant reminders for some of us that we won’t get to hug, call or join a Zoom call with our mom this Mother’s Day.

I lost my mom to Multiple Myeloma in 2016, and I’m still figuring out how to handle the holiday without her. I’ve learned the importance of spending that day on my own terms and doing what feels right for me.

  • You don’t have to attend Mother’s Day Zoom calls or activities; it’s perfectly fine to sit them out. Do whatever makes you feel good. One year I was with a big group, the next year I chose to be alone. Both are okay!
  • Reach out to others who loved your mom – I reach out to my mom’s best friend every year and we share a favorite memory with each other
  • Create a new tradition
  • Find a small way to celebrate
  • Stay off social media – trust me on this one – you don’t need to see other people’s posts with their moms.

I have a bracelet that my mom gave me that says “you’ll never be alone” and I wear it often, especially around Mother’s Day.

Many successful people are struggling with loss and grief. Know that it’s okay and that you aren’t alone in this feeling. Mother’s Day is just one day out of the year. And to all of the amazing moms out there – I wish you a very Happy Mother’s Day.