This is a guest post by Josh Baron, an attorney in Salt Lake City on the importance of networking and referrals, and never knowing how or where you will meet someone who can change your life. It underscores the importance of saying yes more.

I met my wife through a referral.

I called my friend Tracie and asked her if she had any friends she wanted to introduce me to. We were talking on the phone, but I could feel her roll her eyes.

“Come to this birthday party I’m throwing this weekend,” she said.

The party felt like a mistake. I didn’t know anyone there. “Let me talk to that girl across the room and then we can go,” I said to my roommate who had been dragged along unwillingly.

We talked for more than three hours. Less than eight months later we were married.

My life would be very different without referrals.