Here are 10 things I’ve learned to stop wasting my time on in order to find more happiness in life. I hope they’re helpful to you.

  1. Worrying about what others think of me. Other’s people’s opinions are just that – opinions. The only opinion that matters is yours.
  2. Trying to make everyone like me. They won’t. End of story. They also will believe their own narratives of you based on their viewpoints or agenda. I stopped trying to correct people who told lies about me and I ran from people who gaslit me with their fabrications of things that never happened, including my significant other.
  3. Social media accounts that don’t make me feel good about myself or people who post only perfect moments in their life. PS – no one’s life is perfect!
  4. Obsessing over things I can’t control. This leads to worry, anxiety and wrinkles!
  5. People who treat me poorly (anyone who gossips, is a mean girl or is unsupportive).
  6. Beating myself up over past mistakes. What’s done is done. Learn from it, be a better person and move on.
  7. Ignoring red flags and it listening to my intuition.
  8. Being a perfectionist. Sometimes your good is good enough. We are all just too busy to belabor things to death.
  9. Giving too much to people who don’t reciprocate.
  10. Trying to do it all. I stopped beating myself up over not crossing off enough things on my to-do list while realizing the value of self-care (such as time with my dogs).

I hope this list is helpful as you move into the new year.

Think about what you would put on your own list and remember to always be kind to yourself.