Choose people who choose you is such a simple statement but it’s so hard for many of us to follow it.

I’ve learned the hard way the importance of being very careful about who I allow into my life both personally and professionally. 

I’ve also learned what I will tolerate and how I deserve to be treated by others. If I feel like I’m being disrespected or treated badly, I disappear instead of trying harder to make them like me.

Choosing the people who choose you involves reevaluating your current relationships in addition to establishing healthy self-care and learning about personal boundaries.

It also involves finding the strength to distance yourself from those who make you feel bad and don’t appreciate you. Sometimes you just have to – that’s protecting yourself and having personal boundaries. Sometimes this is temporary and sometimes it’s not.

It is about saying “I will not give you time and attention if you don’t treat me with respect and give me these things in return.” Despite knowing all of this it’s still so hard for many of us actually put it in practice even when someone has disappointed us.

In this installment of Women Who Wow, learn more about Diana Lauritson, a legal marketer and volunteer leader in the Legal Marketing Association.

Diana has had a versatile career and spent several years working in government and public affairs before entering the legal industry.

In addition to legal, her background in business development, marketing, communications, and community relations encompasses a variety of industries and areas, including higher education, management consulting, trade associations, and nonprofits. She is passionate about diversity, equity, inclusion, civic engagement and alternative dispute resolution.

Lindsey Bombardier is the Director of Business Development and Marketing at Lenczner Slaght. She manages a talented group of professionals and works closely with the firm’s management committee, lawyers and business team members to enhance client development and drive brand awareness. She is also responsible for internal communications and is an active member of the firm’s Business Continuity Committee, Equity, Diversity and Inclusion Committee and Innovation Hive™.

Lindsey is a longtime director of the Legal Marketing Association, Canada Region. She is the co-creator of LMANext, a program supporting the next generation of legal marketers. Before joining Lenczner Slaght, Lindsey worked for nearly a decade at one of Canada’s largest law firms.

Follow Lindsey on LinkedIn.

This is the first installment of my Lawyers Who Lead series, which will feature insights and advice from a broad range of lawyers, and will showcase their career paths and what they think it takes to be successful as a lawyer today. 

I’m excited to feature Daniel (Dan) Shulman in the Lawyers Who Lead series. Chicago-based Dan is an experienced intellectual property litigator and appellate lawyer at Vedder Price.

Dan brings a unique perspective and client-focused approach to his practice honed by over a decade serving as in-house as chief IP counsel for a multibillion-dollar conglomerate holding thousands of worldwide patents and trademarks.

In his bio, I love that Dan says his approach to his clients follows the Golden Rule – he treats his clients the way he expected to be treated by his own outside counsel. You can read Dan’s full bio and connect with him on LinkedIn.

Read more about Dan and his career path.

Janessa Shaikun has overseen marketing efforts at Baltimore law firm Franklin & Prokopik since March 2015. She currently serves as the firm’s Director of Marketing and Business Development

Janessa is a longtime Legal Marketing Association volunteer, and has held several leadership roles.

In her spare time, Janessa enjoys skiing, playing Baltimore city social sports, watching the Buffalo Bills and Sabres, traveling and spending time with her friends and family.

Learn more about her in this Women Who Wow profile.

In this installment of Women Who Wow, learn more about Silvia Coulter.

Silvia Coulter is a Co-founding Principal of LawVision, and is one of the legal industry’s most experienced sales, key client planning and leadership experts.

Her experience includes working as a former strategic account executive and sales leader at a Fortune 50 company, a chief marketing and business development officer at two global law firms, and consultant and facilitator to law firms across the globe.

She is a co-founder of the Legal Sales and Service Organization (LSSO) and a Past Elected President of the Legal Marketing Association and a Fellow of the College of Law Practice Management. She is a frequent speaker and facilitator at law firm retreats and legal industry meetings.

Silvia is so generous with her time and is a true advocate for women and for the legal profession. I hope you enjoy learning about her.