As co-chair of the 2019 LMA Northeast Regional Conference, I was so excited when James Kane agreed to be our keynote speaker. I have had a huge professional crush on him for years. James is considered the leading researcher and authority on what makes someone truly loyal – to another person, to an organization
Women can be so hard on each other in (and out of) the workplace doing things such as backstabbing, gossiping, purposely excluding someone from a meeting, taking credit for someone’s work or helping to push someone out of a job. Maybe you’ve been the target of some these behaviors at the hands of another woman at work. Please know that you aren’t alone.
I call this the dark side of working with women. I’ve been there too, and not just at work. This behavior can also rear its ugly head in your personal life. It’s deeply disturbing, and one of the worst parts is that it can be contagious, like a fast-spreading virus. What I mean by that is that one mean girl in a group can then serve as the “bad egg” and turn others against a target. And if you have ever been the target of mean girl behavior, the effects can be incredibly damaging on every aspect of your life – I don’t care how old you are, this behavior never gets easier to deal with.
Although outside of the office, women consider their girlfriends among their closest confidants, they aren’t always each other’s biggest supporters within the workplace. In fact, they can be each other’s worst nightmares and saboteurs, if they view each other as rivals.
Today there are Regina George-like characters in every industry, simply because there are more women in the workplace. Their catty behaviors such as gossiping, backstabbing and sabotaging can turn an otherwise pleasant workplace into a place of daily dread.
The silver lining is that while you will inevitably encounter mean girls throughout your career, learning how to manage them will make you stronger and more resilient. Dealing with someone like this enables you to emerge a more confident version of yourself.
Today, I am lucky enough to work in an environment free of mean girls (thank goodness!), but I do come into contact with them from time to time – just like we all do – and I carry with me the memories of working with some very toxic females, which have helped me develop a thicker skin, and learn how to navigate them – these are important skills to have throughout your career because you will inevitably encounter mean girls personally and professionally. I want to make it clear that are plenty of amazing, supportive women in the workforce, and I’ve been very lucky to work with a number of them. They aren’t threatened by other women, and instead they go above and beyond to help others succeed.
It’s important to remember that while you cannot can’t change someone else, you can change your own behavior, and this article will teach you how to do just that. …
I’m excited to speak at the ARK Group’s Competitive Intelligence in the Modern Law Firm conference this Wednesday 9/25 in NYC with Amanda Loesch the CMO of Porzio Bromberg & Newman P.C.
We will be discussing, “How to Identify Your Firm’s Real Competitors and Use That Information to Your Advantage.” Amanda and I both have…
I wanted to share a few thoughts for some little things you can do in your marketing efforts to go the extra mile and stand out from competitors.
When you’re at a conference, don’t just sit on your phone checking your email. Really detach from your day-to-day work and immerse yourself in the conference experience.…
Take a look at a Q&A with me and my 2019 LMA Northeast Regional Conference co-chair Bob Robertson by Jacob Eidinger about our plans for #LMANE19. what we are each most excited about with regard to the conference and why you should join us in the Big Apple on November 14/15!
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Kindness is something I have been writing about a lot lately, and we can do so much to give back to others who really need help in a time of need or crisis. For example:
Maybe they need a hand with childcare, a shoulder to cry on or extra help at work.
Also, people get…
Sometimes we need a reminder of the basics needed to be successful at work especially after being away on vacation or slacking off a bit during the summer.
The fall is a great time to refocus ourselves and find new meaning in our work, and to be a more engaged employee and colleague. Remember you …
It’s important to remember that you should be kind to everyone, because every industry is incredibly tight knit.
Also, everyone is a potential referral source, or someone who could potentially hire you or recommend you for a job. You never know who knows who, and just like everyone checks you out online, people also ask…
I came across a great article with helpful tips on networking best practices that I wanted to share. The main points from it are:
1. Never ask for what you want. Ask how you can help.
2. Focus on goals—but not your goals.
3. When someone tells you what they do, immediately follow up by…
Deep thought of the day from Jen Sincero’s terrific You are a Badass book: We attract people into our lives for a reason, just as they attract us into theirs. We all help each other grow and figure out our issues, if we seize the opportunity to learn from, instead of just react to (by…